Pardon me if this is your manifesto or something, but I totally don’t get the whole remain “pure” until you are married thing..
I mean, good for you if you choose to remain a virgin until you are married. Really, I do mean that, I think it is admirable. (Edit: I think it’s admirable but much ado about nothing if you REALLY want my point of view.)
What really gives me the creeps (serious, serious creeps) is the whole “promise ring” concept. Apparently a dad gives his daughter a ring in exchange for her agreeing to remain “pure” until marriage. Then, when she gets married, he takes it off and gives it to her future husband. Whoa. Back up. Am I not the only one who sees this as more than a little demeaning? This to me says that women are stupid creatures that can be bought with a few stupid trinkets. I am not a commodity. I cannot be traded from one person to another. Plus, I am a grown woman, as I hope anyone getting married is. What I do in my private life is no one’s business but mine. These people also have something called “purity balls” where a father and daughter attend, dressed to the nines (like a prom), and the father gives the girl a ring and the girl signs a “purity covenant”. Read all about it in this article from \”Glamour\” magazine
I’m sorry, but I honestly just find this whole thing sickening. It is so disconcerting to me that these girls seem to be leaving decisions about THEIR bodies up to men. Apparently, they aren’t allowed to have dates until they are “courted” by someone. Oh, ok, so it is wrong to ask a man for a date? What is this? 1808? I am sorry, I thought it was 2008, do forgive my dreadful manners.
Of course, maybe I’m just too much of a liberal femnist bitch to understand the whole thing.
What do you think?